Experiences > Stuff

As all of the back to school emails float in, with beautiful sweaters, blazers, scarves and boots, I’m reminded of my goal to try and focus on experiences rather than stuff. Aside from a few things I genuinely need (a new black turtleneck as mine is ripped, a new pair of flats to keep in my office as my current pair of ballet flats is destroyed and some new sports bras because non supported boobage while running is HORRIBLE), I am pretty much set for all things clothes, purses, etc….ps. must stay away from the Kate Spade promo emails.

Since the big “35” I have taken steps to live up to the experiences over stuff.  I have registered for a Masters Swim Club, two or cooking seminars (one about chopping like a chef as I don’t really know how and I like my fingers, and the other about pies/pastries as my pie game needs to expand beyond graham crusts), and it looks like I might just be joining a curling league.  YES….you heard me….a curling league.  Yes, I am frightened, too.  The last time I curled as a one off spare, I fell and might’ve been concussed.  Hoping this doesn’t happen this time around.

I may…..may take a photography class.  I say may because with the new job there are much more demands on my time and energy…and sometimes emergencies I will have to deal with…I don’t want to feel overloaded because me and overloaded are not a good mix.

On a broader scale, I’m also planning a few trips.  I’m going to Ottawa and Minneapolis in the month of September–just short weekends away to see friends or shows.  In March, I am hoping to head to Australia to visit my friend and celebrate her baby daughter’s first birthday.  Though, I will admit, if I’m heading out to Aus, there will have to be a bit of “stuff” purchasing–my favourite PJ store is there–good ol’ Peter Alexander. Ooh..maybe if the timing is right and my injury is better, maybe I can even run a race?

Have you ever tried focusing on experiences rather than stuff?  How did you keep your desire to get new stuff at bay?

~Princess Lisa

35

Happy Sunday! :)

I’m 35.

Today,

Thirty- flipping-five.

Where the hell does the time go?  Like, seriously….it feels like I was just planning my 30th birthday extravaganza yesterday….and yet, at the same time it doesn’t.  So many weddings and babies have come since then…sadly neither of them were mine…but who knows what the future holds, right?

But…last year, just before my birthday, I started seeing Coach Tara ( a combo life coach/therapist), based on a recommendation from a dear friend.  I can, without a doubt, say that I’m so, so, so happy that I made that appointment.  Things are definitely not perfect, but things are definitely changing and moving in a positive direction and I have learned a ton and pushed myself outside of my comfort zone….and it’s pretty great.

I am one for lists and inventories and this post will be no different…..here’s some of the things I have done, thanks to Tara:

  • Boudoir photo shoot–SUCH a massive confidence builder and so much fun.  I highly recommend this experience to anyone.  Oh and these photos are mine–no one else’s–which is what I like best about them
  • I went out on dates with 5 different guys since December.  Dumped three of them (the others were first dates that didn’t go anywhere, thank goodness)
  • Dated one of those guys for several months…longest ever
  • Managed not to re-engage my eating disorder with injury related weight gain
  • I have a new job and appear to be succeeding so far
  • Experimented with being more “open” when out and about–this is something I need to re-engage again, I think
  • I stand up for myself now in a number of aspects in my life, where I wouldn’t in the past
  • I take better care of myself–with “Lisa” time where I putter around the house, sleep, bake, whatever….just as long as it feels good
  • When I am feeling kinda bad/sad/crappy/down, it doesn’t last as long as it used to
  • I feel more confident…and prettier, smarter, energized…it’s still not where I would like it to be, but it’s so much better than where it was
  • I can deal with my mother…it’s not fun, but I can do it now

I’m sure there is more, but this list feels pretty inclusive.  I have no idea what 35 has in store, but I’m hoping I will continue to grow and learn from the highs and lows that life always has.

Much love,

~Princess Lisa

The Fun Thing About Birthdays

Outside of the cake/presents/festivities that are normally associated with birthdays, there is also something refreshing, like the chance for a new start when a birthday begins.  A new year.  A chance to start something new or try something different, without the added pressure of the new year….or the hangover…maybe.

The last bit of 34 has been a bit rough on me.  A lot of change and a lot of just stuff happening.  Disney trips, new jobs, races, injury recovery, weight gain, dating, ended relationships, family health issues, dealing with problem family members…but that’s part of the deal, I guess.

As 35 begins (in less than 12 hours!), I’m hoping to bring in more “experiences” in my life.  Doing things that aren’t just me running on a treadmill.  And this isn’t to say that I’m giving up on running cold turkey, it’s just that I’m going to try and do more than just that….especially since I’m not in a job with constant travel.

I’m signing up for a masters swim club with a friend, some cooking seminars and a photography class. I may even sign up for a team sport, though I’m a bit worried how that will impact this hip flexor injury….so that might be something I try doing in January, when I’m hopefully back to running pain free.  Plus, I have no idea what sport I would like to try….maybe volleyball, dodgeball or gasp(!) curling!?  Oh…and I have a friend that is interested in joining me in French classes in the spring! :)

I’m also planning a few trips in the next little bit–visiting friends across Canada and around the world.  Getting to spend time with dear friends and just relaxing…esp in light of my new, rather stressful job, is exactly what I’m going to need.  Oh and I’m already saving up for my Wine and Dine 2016 trip with Team Can-Am since I had to miss out on this year (boo!).

I’m feeling pretty excited about what is to come….a few new skills, a bit of fitness, some travel….and hopefully a whole lotta fun!

Much Love,

~Princess Lisa